Games People Play

Games People Play (subtitle: The Psychology of Human Relationships) is a famous 1964 book by psychiatrist Eric Berne. Since its publication it has sold more than five million copies. The book describes both functional and dysfunctional social interactions (cited from Wikipedia).

I am playing a game.

Mind games on how to beat the blue.
Brain teasers to control the heart.
Mind you this optical illusion will be real.
It is a snow country puzzle.
A maze of entrapment.
Psychologically, it will be control over people- and more importanly, myself.

After reading New York best seller 'He's Just Not That Into You' by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo , I had became rather cynical. Predominantly a book for the ladies to analyse men, I find it quite effective for men to analyse women as well or in any case, anyone. It outlines that love is no excuse at all.

For love is great. For we deserve that great love. There are no mixed messages.
He′s/She's just not that into you if:
He′s/She's not asking you out.
He′s/She's just too insanely busy to pick up the phone.
He/She doesn′t like the words ′relationship′ or ′boyfriend/ girlfriend.
My good friend Oprah Winfrey, whom endorsed this book, said that the book title is:
"Six words to change your life forever ... This book should be on every single woman′s nightstand!"

Good ol Oprah.
So instead of going into coffee by day, cocktail by night hours where friends sit together
And analyse what had gone wrong in their life,
Wouldn't it be better if we don't go on that ride and just save some youth by concluding,
He/She is just not that into you -period.

In addition, we all have many issues deeply imbedded within ourselves.
Whether it is a childhood trauma, esteem issues, trust issues or fear of taking that leap.
Whenever i feel the terror coming towards me, in my fear of fears, i have learnt to look within me.
Say a little prayer, clear the head, calm the heart. Remind yourself you are playing a game.
That is what i did and i find it very effective. Reconnect with God and ask What Would Jesus Do.
Ask for peace, ask for wisdom and ask for protection.

The possibility of getting myself hurt again emotionally is more than I can bear.
I may have loved the idea of the relationship, in the end of the road, I love myself more.
I will not want that pain again, even though pain and hurt may be part of the game peole play.

Bible 1 Corinthians 13

4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

13And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

We deserve great love and i am armed with game plans.